“If he desired to know about automobiles, he would, without question, study diligently about automobiles.
If his wife desired to be a gourmet cook, she’d certainly study the art of cooking, perhaps even attending a cooking class.
Yet, it never seems as obvious to him that if he wants to live in love,
he must spend at least as much time as the auto mechanic or the gourmet in studying love.”
– Leo Buscaglia from Love
The study of love is an underappreciated field. No college allows a student to major in love, few textbooks grace the subject, and one exits childhood with either a strong notion of what love can be or a deficit that will continuously need replenishing as the years continue on.
Thus it is up to willing to practice this art – through trial and error, good intentions and stumbles. For like any student, one does not begin as a master. Akin to anything else in life, one must put the hours in if they wish to grow.
To evade the subject promises that the muscles made to love may grow weary, weak. Working them out through a daily practice ensures that any fear of love is silenced by such attention.
For a taste of what such fear may look like, the clip below offers a fair glimpse. A scene which may seem trite in less capable hands comes off as moving and raw with Rachel McAdams at the helm and Mr. Gosling off-camera.